Tuesday, October 19, 2004

Why Christians cannot support gay marriage

On another blog, a few of us are having a discussion about gay marriage. A Christian brother is endorsing gay marriage and believes we, as Christians, should support the rights of men to marry men, and women to marry women. I disagree, and believe no Christian should support gay marriage.

First, a foundation:

A. Sex between people of the same sex is sinful behaviour, a sinful act. If you believe that the Bible speaks the truth of God, you shouldn't have a problem agreeing with this statement. We agree with this because this is what God has declared.

The argument:

1. Christians believe that marriage is a lifetime covenant. Two individuals are joined together in marriage for life. We believe that divorce should be a rare occurrence. What God has joined together, should not be divided.

2. We believe that God can and does transform human beings. We agree with God that 1Cor 6:11 speaks to those caught in homosexuality, when it says "And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God." We believe in the transforming power of God. We believe the testimony of ex-gays, myself included, that God has worked a work in their lives and transformed them.

3. We believe that God is "not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance." (2Pet 3:9)

4. It is impossible for us then to support gay marriage. We believe that marriage is a lifelong covenant. If 2 men marry, we, as Christians, believe that they should be together their entire lives, save for the cause of adultery.

5. At the same time, we hope that all men turn from their sin and worship and serve the one true God. We are to be holy and blameless before God, our Father. We hope that all men would be free from bondage, including sexual bondage. Our hope is that the gay identified person would find freedom from all sin, including homosexual sin.

6. So, what happens when a man is married to another man in a lifetime covenant and is set free, by the power of God, of his desires to have sex with those of the same sex? We have added a stumblingblock for them to overcome by supporting gay marriage. Do we now say to the man, stay married to your gay spouse? Even though now his lust is past, and his desire is to live godly and please the God who made him...Even though now he desires to know the Lord fully and walk in His ways...Even though his long suppressed natural desire is now blooming for a helpmeet, for a wife, for a mother of his children. Do we now say, marriage is for life, and you are stuck, so make the best of it?

No, we cannot endorse or support the joining of two people of the same sex in a lifelong covenant and at the same time, pray for their freedom from sin and bondage. Our duty to God, as part of His family, as citizens of His kingdom, is that His ways become our ways. Man may try to argue that marriage is a civil right for gays, but the saints of God cannot agree.

UPDATE: On one of my favorite blogs, another discussion on gay marriage where they speak of the rights and wrongs of legislating morality, even though they believe gay marriage is immoral. My post here, however, is a response to the Christian brother at intheouter who is in favor of gay marriage itself.